Domestic violence hurts, and it disrupts everyone and everything around us during the process of  it  happening.
It is very damaging to our inner feelings.  Domestic violence is a serious crime and should be dealt with within a court of law whenever the violence occurs.  It is a crime like any other crimes committed against another human person. I feel that as there are strengths, there are also weakness or faults within mankind.  And, just like serious diseases,gets worse  if it not treated, so does domestic violence, which is our main sickness.  Throughout the ages, whether we're in England, the Caribbean, the West Indies, or in Tim-buk-tu.  Whether or not we call ourselves African, Afro Caribbean, Afro Americans or Black British, it doesn’t matter. No matter what we called ourselves, no matter where we are in the world, within our communities, as like in all other nations and communities, we have also suffered violence and physical abuse of all kinds. Yet our men folk or governments have never seemed able to deal with this situations the way it should be dealt with, no matter where in the world we are.  This plights have never been taken seriously,  this is why we continue to live with and endure unspeakable suffering. Domestic violence is a serious crime, yet most times when these serious abuses are committed against women, there never seems to be a law protecting us against such violence.  No matter what governments are in power, we're not being protected.  Whenever there is election coming up, all kind of governments talk greatly about protection against domestic violence for women. Yet, it doesn’t really matter what laws are brought in, for me and many women like me it's too late. They won't protect us from domestic violence. When I needed to be protected, there were no laws, protecting me against such violence.  I am already left mentally scarred and partially disabled, because of such violence.   Where are the laws, that  are suppose to be protecting millions of women like me?   Or the millions of women that are not as fortunate as I am to have survived to tell my story.  Where were the laws  that were to protect those women, who were killed, partially disabled or disabled and ended up in a wheelchair?  Where are the laws and why they were not protecting them? Domestic violence did not just start yesterday.  This disease, man against women, started since time begun.  WHY IT IS THERE HAS BEEN NO LAWS SINCE THEN?   This is my voice.  My feelings are quite strong regarding this subject.  Where is our media? Where is our voice? Why are we not speaking out against this issue?  There are no governments anywhere, no matter where we are, who cared enough to protect us from these acts of violence’s that are being inflicted against us as women.  I feel strongly about this matter.  Enough is enough.  It is full time for us to expose the abusers.  Bare the truth and speak it now, those of us who hide the wrongs they do, they'll carry on abusing us more.  Not because our grandmothers and our mothers had to put up with abuse, that doesn’t mean’s that it was right.   It just meant that there were no laws protecting them against these kinds of brutality. We often live with these abuses because we're afraid of being judged, criticized, being seen as failures, being ashamed, and most of all, no one, we feel, no one cares, and no one will believe us.  Sometimes we have to live within an abusive situation because there is no where to go, and we feel no one understands us.  There are often many obstacles in the way that caused us to live in these cruel situations.  We're often trapped in bad situations at times because there are children involves in these relationships.  It is never an easy way out for the women caught in these traps.  If as women we do not speak out now, nothing will change for the next generations.   I feel we owe it to them.  We must try and make a safer world for our next generations going into relationships.  Not to say anything, not to do anything, is simply meant that we're satisfied with being abused.  Rather than speaking out, we prefer to live in denial, for it is easier to pretend these abuses do not happen within our communities.  Who are we fooling?  Who are we hurting?  Are we fooling the world? or, are we fooling ourselves?" I don't want to play Super Woman anymore; I don't want to pretend all is well any more. I want to be realistic, just be realistic.  DOMESTIC VIOLENCE is rampantly high within our communities, as  within all other communities, and it's time for us to come out the closet.  Too many of our homes are being affected through such violent actions.  Not only does domestic violence affect the women, it affects the children, also,  causing break-up of the families involved since, often, the men or fathers of the children have to leave the household.  Every other black woman’s household is a one parent family, often with just the woman left to bringing up the children on her own.  She struggles like hell on her own, caring for the children.  Sometimes she has to try and hold down two jobs in order to send the children to school and to help putting bread on their table.   Apart from those precious cases of domestic unity, the woman is often likely to be going home from work into an unhappy situation of abuse if there's husband or a man in the household.  What then, does she do?"   What's going on?  Where is the justification for domestic violence?   How can we solve the  hurt, the misery, the pain caused to families, and our children?   The thought of domestic violence fills me with  great horror.